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Follow-Up to a Previous Blog — Dating IS Terrifying!
Not enough people say it. Let’s start normalizing it.
(Said previous blog).
Here’s why. It is the process of opening yourself up slowly but surely to a person in a way that could possibly backfire and leave you picking up pieces of yourself. But alas we still try because the reward is greater than the risk, or so we think.
I have written multiple blogs about being ghosted, the lessons I’ve learned from it, and the mindset I approached this dating attempt with. But just because I was able to walk into this relationship with confidence that if things didn’t work I would be fine, it never negated also feeling scared that I could potentially invest a lot of myself in that relationship. And I think this is something we need to address.
The feeling is very intimidating. It’s difficult to put into words how it feels to open yourself up, but I know I’ve felt it in my last couple of dating attempts. The best way I can describe it is looking at this particular person through a different lens. As if you’re both new, not trying to dig their past to compile a list of cons, and instead giving them an unbiased opportunity to show themselves to you. It’s also a very forgiving lens (I think women tend to do this mostly. It’s the only perspective I know cause…
