Challenge in dating — The Reason Why We Can’t Keep a Partner

If we weren’t so uncomfortable with being challenged, we would probably have the partner of our dreams.

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Some men talk about wanting a perhaps older (not always the case), more mature woman. But when the opportunity presents itself to pursue one, they back out. The same goes for women. This stems from a habit we’ve adopted where we walk away from moments or situations that challenge the current version of ourselves.

Getting to go out with that person you find highly desirable is very different from being able to keep he/she/them. The reasons why they, or you found yourself attracted to this person will change overtime as you get to know one another.

Recently, I’ve been consistently pursued by younger men for whatever reason the universe decided. The current guy I’m dating is three years younger than me. Before him, the guy I was dating was four years younger. And in the beginning, he was very vocal about his desire to be with an older, mature woman. But clearly, it didn’t work out — fun fact this was the ghosting experience I wrote about.

With my previous partner, I found that as soon things got tough he backed away from the challenge. Towards the last week that we were dating, there was an incident…