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There’s A Lot of Misinformation on How Women Want to be Approached by Men.

And very few people are questioning any of it, which is leading to botched first impressions of the opposite sex. Let’s examine a few of them.

6 min readSep 30, 2021

In my most recent blog I spoke briefly and generally about what I believe to be one of the biggest obstacles we face when dating (from the point of view of a Millennial and the current dating culture). After listening to various podcasts and interviews on The Roommates YouTube channel and others, I have realized that there’s a ton of misinformation and incorrect assumptions about what women want from men and what men want from women. And since I identify as a woman, I wanted to dispel some of the ways many young men (especially Millennial men) think is an appropriate or even attractive way to approach a woman.

The hungry stare

I can assure you most women will find themselves a little taken aback and not in a good way when you give them the ‘you look like a stake I want to devour’ stare. More often than not the majority of women will feel objectified by this and be turned off. Some will react positively to the advance but it may be because the woman doesn't take you seriously, or she’s unfortunately struggling with her…

Grown men approach women alone, confidently, with eye contact, and are not afraid to demonstrate interest or to be rebuffed if their interest is not met in kind.
Grown men are generally not single for long.
Any man who cannot manage this, is not ready for a relationship.