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Romantic Relationships are HARD, but Worth it.
Beware of anyone trying to sell you a fairy tale.
I have officially reached the longest relationship of my life. It’s been 3 months… Definitely doesn’t make me the authority on romantic relationships but I have learned a thing or two about resilience and patience these last few months.
It’s true when they say you’re going to meet your partner in the most unexpected moment. As cliche as it sounds, that is exactly what happened to me. But honestly, it has not all been rainbows and roses.
I’ve learned that a great deal of patience and compassion are required to not run away at the first sign of conflict. The truth is, that person you like has a past, has been through unfortunate experiences and has trauma that has not been worked through. The time I’ve dedicated to this relationship has made me reflect on the areas where I may need to do some more work. Am I compassionate, loving, understanding? Do I have the qualities that I demand of the other person?
It’s been a bit of a tough journey, but we’re moving forward. Growing closer in both the good and bad times. Sounds like I’ve been dating this guy for years, and after everything we’ve discussed, it feels like it because we’ve worked through so much in such a short period of time.
