I understand this to a certain extent. We've evolved, and we're still evolving. Another layer to add to this is not all women are the same (same thing with men), and also there's cultural and familial conditioning, etc. I grew up in a Latin American household where men were the ones who called all the shots (machismo) and were basically what you described above. And guess what happened? Most of those relationships ended because dating, relationships, and marital needs have evolved. What used to work ten, twenty, thirty years ago, doesn't work now to sustain a relationship.

I will say that some of what you said is true - a lot of people don't know themselves and so they don't really know exactly what they want. But to say that listening to what the other person wants is wrong, that's a stretch.

My partner and I would not have been together for over two years if we didn't talk and listen to each other.

He's willing to hear me out and I do the same for him.

And P.S. most caring, loving women who are looking for a serious relationship know themselves well enough to know what they want in a man.

If you're consistently finding and dating women who don't know what they want or don't know themselves well enough to know, they are either very emotionally immature and lack self-awareness, or they are too young and haven't lived life long enough to figure that out.