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Do you Even Know What you Want in a Relationship?
I find that most people (around my age range — mid-twenties) have no clue.
Of course this is also true for other generations.
Do people ask themselves what they want in and out of a relationship? I don’t mean the fancy dinners once a week, the height and looks requirements, if the car they own is ‘nice’ enough. I mean the values, belief systems, and character that would describe an ideal partner?
In my late teens and early twenties, I found myself always looking at the shallow aspects of a relationship. Do we look good together? Is he over five-ten? Does he have good style? All things that at the end of the day, don’t have a significant impact on the quality of a relationship. I’ve also noticed that for a while now, we’ve been influenced (by all forms of media, family, friends, etc.) into focusing on these factors that don’t mean much, and it has really twisted the way we prioritize how we look at relationships.
Also, the focus has turned into what I want a little too much. To the point where we don’t even think about what we bring to the table for the other person. A relationship is a partnership, therefore the other person should be getting something from us too. But nowadays it’s all about me, me, me. And it has to start changing…
