I reached my goal of writing twenty blogs in November, and I want to thank YOU! — Thank you for motivating, inspiring, and keeping me accountable so I could stick to this goal. It wasn't easy. But I got it done. This may seem like a small milestone, but it's a stepping stone toward improving as a writer and increasing my reach. If you didn't get to…

I remember when I was a teenager, I became obsessed with losing weight. — It was all I could think about. I grew up in a Colombian household. And if you know anything about Colombian women, we care a lot about how we look. In my teen years, I gained a lot of weight because of my poor diet (I went from eating Colombian…

Why do we need acknowledgment, attention, and approval? — What is it about being recognized and admired that plagues us? That has us doing ridiculous, even dangerous, and morally corrupt things for attention? I’ve struggled with wanting to feel recognized and be praised my whole life. I’m positive it stems from my people-pleasing habits, culture, and being born a…

Don’t let your emotions get the best of you and react without considering the possible consequences. — If there’s one good thing I got from being a people-pleaser and stuffing my feelings, it’s this. Internalizing my feelings allowed me an opportunity many people don’t get because they let themselves get easily swept up in their emotions. To sit with uncomfortable emotions and figure out if it's worth…

Get out of your head and stop thinking it's such a big deal. — Overthinking will kill all of your drive. I'm not saying not to think anything through. That's being reckless, and that doesn't help anyone. What I mean is stop making what you want to do seem like such a big deal. It isn't. The more you let time pass, the worse…

Spoiler: virality isn't the goal. — So many of us jump on the writing bandwagon (or the entrepreneurial bandwagon), hoping it will be the answer to our financial prayers. We hope it will be the quick solution we were asking for to finally live life on our terms and not worry about where the money comes…

It’s not about *not* being afraid. — That feeling you get when you’re about to do something different or new is your fight or flight kicking in because of the possibility of failure. Whenever you try anything new, you will feel this way, and that’s why it’s not about no longer feeling afraid. It’s about accepting that…

So many of us fall into the trap of constantly fantasizing. — We fantasize about the perfect job, the perfect relationship, lifestyle, group of friends, environment, etc. Fantasizing is an escape from the aspects of our lives we don't love, but constantly seeking this escape will have you thinking that this imaginary ideal place you dream of actually exists. And the truth…

And it will continue to do so until you recognize it and start dealing with it. — So many of us are in so much pain and are still hurting from past wounds. And it will continue to be that way unless we begin to recognize that pain in the first place. Because we've been hurt, we start to believe that people aren't safe. We judge the…